The Slut Debate

ThePhanastasio · 12-10-2010, 12:04 PM

I don't find women (or men, for that matter) who sleep around to be sluts generally. There's a line, but it would have to be really extreme for someone to cross said line.

For example: A single girl who has multiple sexual partners, a few one night stands she'd rather not talk about, and a legitimate enjoyment of sex is not a slut.

A single girl who has sex for personal gain or consistently sleeps with people just because someone else is interested in the person and they want to shove it in their face, has sex solely for drugs, money, or some other gain, or something at that sort - I'd consider that a slut if it's done on a consistent basis.

Then again, that can just be construed as being a prostitute in some cases, or as a complete bitch in others (the sleeping with people just to rub it in someone else's face scenario).

s_k · 12-10-2010, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Dirty

Open question to everyone... If you found a girl.....not the perfect girl or 'the one' or whatever... but you had a good vibe and you liked her and she wanted to start dating. Is there any number of guys that shes slept with that would turn you off from dating her? Or a ball park number, and what is that number?

Nah, not really.
But I must say that I don't know any girl who slept with more than ten guys or so. It probably has something to do with the kind of people people I hang out with I guess.

Dr_Rez · 12-10-2010, 12:54 PM

If on the date a man has to pay for everything surely he deserves the right to be able to sleep around. Also since we can get drafted in times of war we deserve the right to be mansluts.

Paedantic Basterd · 12-10-2010, 03:27 PM

Difficult to answer.

I don't think highly of women who sleep around, but I also don't think highly of men who do it. In the end, regardless of which direction the issue takes, I would prefer for there to be no double standard, and have everyone treated the same.

FETCHER. · 12-10-2010, 03:29 PM

Anyone who takes/gives a good shafting for no real reason is a slut imo. People who sleep with people on first meetings = sluts.

TheBig3 · 12-10-2010, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Vanilla

But is it really so wrong to sleep with lots of different people? I think that is my underlining question here.

Theres a classy way to do it and there isn't. I think when most people accuse another of sluttiness are because of dress and actions, not because of sex.

right-track · 12-10-2010, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by TheBig3KilledMyRainDog

Theres a classy way to do it and there isn't. I think when most people accuse another of sluttiness are because of dress and actions, not because of sex.

Totally agree.
It's not what you do, but the way you do it.
Goes for most things in life too.

RVCA · 12-10-2010, 04:00 PM

I'm surprised the evolutionary viewpoint hasn't been brought up yet. So...

Evolutionarily speaking, females invest more into spreading their genes. They have to deal with the fetus developing inside of them for 9 months, consuming their nutrients and causing minor health issues while simultaneously being physically encumbering. They have to experience the excruciating birth process. They must invest significantly more post-birth, too. Breastfeeding, rearing, etc.

For a male to spread his genes, he just needs to f*** as many females as he can.

So really, I'd argue that men are biologically programmed to be "sluts" and that's the way it has always been, therefore it's socially acceptable that they are indeed sluts. However, women are expected to do everything I just listed, and that's why it's not socially acceptable for them to sleep around; our evolutionary past dictates that they can't, if they wish to pass on their genes.

**Janszoon** · 12-10-2010, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by right-track

Totally agree.
It's not what you do, but the way you do it.
Goes for most things in life too.

Yeah, that's why I think obnoxious drivers are sluts.

~~someonecompletelyrandom~~ · 12-10-2010, 07:52 PM

The poll options make it impossible to vote Yes because it seems like you're rejecting sexual liberation for women. As others have said, I think it's all about attitude and/or the way you present yourself. If you are overly flirtatious, come off as "loose", dress in an unnecessarily provocative manor (short skirts with no underwear??) or will have sex with just about anybody.. then yes. I would say "You madame, are a slut." If you just have sex a lot and aren't flaunting it around and bragging about it then I don't think you'll come off as such.

View Poll Results: A slut or not a slut? That is the question.
Yes...dirty girls that need a wash	18	16.98%
No...sexual liberation for women!!	37	34.91%
Indifferent...as long as I don't get any diseases off them.	38	35.85%
I'm a creep that's to busy jacking off to Nickelback music...and Chad	13	12.26%
Voters: 106. You may not vote on this poll

12-10-2010, 12:54 PM	#23 (permalink)
Dr_Rez Registered Jimmy Rustler Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: USA Posts: 5,360	If on the date a man has to pay for everything surely he deserves the right to be able to sleep around. Also since we can get drafted in times of war we deserve the right to be mansluts. __________________ Best chance of losing virginity is in prison crew Always Checks Credentials Crew nba > nfl crew Shave one of my legs to pretend its a girl in my bed crew

12-10-2010, 12:04 PM	#21 (permalink)
ThePhanastasio Killed Laura Palmer Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Ashland, KY Posts: 1,679	I don't find women (or men, for that matter) who sleep around to be sluts generally. There's a line, but it would have to be really extreme for someone to cross said line. For example: A single girl who has multiple sexual partners, a few one night stands she'd rather not talk about, and a legitimate enjoyment of sex is not a slut. A single girl who has sex for personal gain or consistently sleeps with people just because someone else is interested in the person and they want to shove it in their face, has sex solely for drugs, money, or some other gain, or something at that sort - I'd consider that a slut if it's done on a consistent basis. Then again, that can just be construed as being a prostitute in some cases, or as a complete bitch in others (the sleeping with people just to rub it in someone else's face scenario).

12-10-2010, 03:27 PM	#24 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	Difficult to answer. I don't think highly of women who sleep around, but I also don't think highly of men who do it. In the end, regardless of which direction the issue takes, I would prefer for there to be no double standard, and have everyone treated the same.

12-10-2010, 04:00 PM	#28 (permalink)
RVCA （￣ー￣） Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 3,270	I'm surprised the evolutionary viewpoint hasn't been brought up yet. So... Evolutionarily speaking, females invest more into spreading their genes. They have to deal with the fetus developing inside of them for 9 months, consuming their nutrients and causing minor health issues while simultaneously being physically encumbering. They have to experience the excruciating birth process. They must invest significantly more post-birth, too. Breastfeeding, rearing, etc. For a male to spread his genes, he just needs to f*** as many females as he can. So really, I'd argue that men are biologically programmed to be "sluts" and that's the way it has always been, therefore it's socially acceptable that they are indeed sluts. However, women are expected to do everything I just listed, and that's why it's not socially acceptable for them to sleep around; our evolutionary past dictates that they can't, if they wish to pass on their genes.

12-10-2010, 07:52 PM	#30 (permalink)
~~someonecompletelyrandom~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,538	The poll options make it impossible to vote Yes because it seems like you're rejecting sexual liberation for women. As others have said, I think it's all about attitude and/or the way you present yourself. If you are overly flirtatious, come off as "loose", dress in an unnecessarily provocative manor (short skirts with no underwear??) or will have sex with just about anybody.. then yes. I would say "You madame, are a slut." If you just have sex a lot and aren't flaunting it around and bragging about it then I don't think you'll come off as such.