Physical discipline against children .. okay or not?

djchameleon · 11-08-2016, 04:42 AM

I am so old that the teachers were allowed to spank us with a ruler in school. On our hands or if we were really bad on our butts bent over the desk. Come to think of it in hindsight the butt spankings were always like just the kid and the teacher alone not in front of the whole class.

Tristan_Geoff · 11-08-2016, 07:26 AM

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Originally Posted by djchameleon

I am so old that the teachers were allowed to spank us with a ruler in school. On our hands or if we were really bad on our butts bent over the desk. Come to think of it in hindsight the butt spankings were always like just the kid and the teacher alone not in front of the whole class.

I went to a christian school until 2nd grade, can confirm that they still allow this and readily enforce it.

djchameleon · 11-08-2016, 08:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Tristan Geoff

I went to a christian school until 2nd grade, can confirm that they still allow this and readily enforce it.

Same. I only did 1st and 2nd grade there before moving back to Texas. I don't even remember if it was a Christian school though.

The Batlord · 11-08-2016, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by djchameleon

I am so old that the teachers were allowed to spank us with a ruler in school. On our hands or if we were really bad on our butts bent over the desk. Come to think of it in hindsight the butt spankings were always like just the kid and the teacher alone not in front of the whole class.

Chula Vista · 11-08-2016, 10:55 AM

Xurtio · 11-08-2016, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by djchameleon

I guess all these anti-physical discipline people will just let their kids touch the hot stove so that they don't "abuse" them.

It depends on how hot it is. If it will give them severe trauma or injury, no. If it will give them a burn mark and a little pain, YES. But "just" let them is misleading, I definitely tell them not to and warn them that they'll get hurt. Then I build trust with them over time with this behavior as I'm proven right, especially since I don't exaggerate consequences (or threaten adding my own).

Also, I personally subscribe to the bloody owie philosophy.

The important point is that I didn't cause it - but they still learned through natural consequence. So later, when they're in a ****ty situation that they'll get in even more trouble for with abusive parents (whether physical or emotional) they trust me and come to me for help instead of making the situation worse by avoiding me and my additional punishment added to their natural consequences.

I don't want to be my kid's friend, but I do want them to trust me. Otherwise they're going lie to me and hide **** from me.

~~ChelseaDagger~~ · 11-08-2016, 02:22 PM

Why spank when you can instead yell like a banshee and thus annoy the neighbors as a bonus?

djchameleon · 11-09-2016, 01:16 AM

In other words, verbal abuse is a okay but physical is a big no no.

Xurtio · 11-09-2016, 01:21 AM

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In other words, verbal abuse is a okay but physical is a big no no.

Not sure that's what chelsea meant. Yelling can be more a desperate plea, especially for mothers. Yelling is not automatically abuse.

DwnWthVwls · 11-09-2016, 12:22 PM

You don't know Chelsea very well.. She's a mad woman.

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Chula Vista Toasted Poster Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: SoCal by way of Boston Posts: 11,332	__________________ “The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.”

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~~ChelseaDagger~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Jul 2015 Location: In the fires of your own disillusion Posts: 684	Why spank when you can instead yell like a banshee and thus annoy the neighbors as a bonus?