Physical discipline against children .. okay or not?

Plankton · 10-28-2016, 09:02 AM

I can't remember if I replied to this. It's been a while since it's popped up.

I've never had to resort to violence because of my daughters actions. At 22, she's an extremely well adjusted young adult with a bright future and a healthy outlook on life. She's smart, kind, and has compassion for the world and everything in it.

When she was a little girl doing the things little girls do, sometimes she'd test her boundaries, and I'd kneel down to her level, look her in her eyes and tell her very calmly why her actions were harmful, or what ever the case was. She'd usually just shrug, say "Ok Dad", and scamper off on her happy way. Before anything else, I taught her love, compassion, and understanding. The world needs more of it, and children will mirror your actions by a tenfold, so start there.

djchameleon · 10-28-2016, 09:08 AM

I feel like my position over the years has changed but I still believe in light spanking in the early years followed up with counseling so they understand why it happened.

Chula Vista · 10-28-2016, 12:07 PM

I think in total I spanked my kids on a clothed behind maybe 6 times combined. And it was not to inflict pain but to get across the seriousness of what they did at the time.

grindy · 10-28-2016, 01:22 PM

My parents spanked me a bit, at times with a belt, when I was little, because that's how things were done in the Soviet Union. Once we got to Germany and became civilised they stopped and are now ashamed of the spanking.
I can't say I'm traumatized by all that, but I don't think it's really necessary.

**Frownland** · 10-28-2016, 01:30 PM

Parents pay me to beat the **** out of their kids because they can decide not to press charges and would go to jail if they did it themselves. I do it for the people.

Lucem Ferre · 10-28-2016, 01:44 PM

I feel like hitting the children can build a lot more resentment rather than obedience.

Ol’ Qwerty Bastard · 10-28-2016, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Lucem Ferre

I feel like hitting the children can build a lot more resentment rather than obedience.

Then you aren't beating them hard enough.

Lucem Ferre · 10-28-2016, 01:47 PM

That build more resentment. Maybe a temporary obedience.

Blue Hawk · 10-28-2016, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Qwertyy

Then you aren't beating them hard enough.

Merciless b*tch.

~~Cuthbert~~ · 10-28-2016, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Qwertyy

Then you aren't beating them hard enough.

lol Qwerty >>>

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10-28-2016, 09:02 AM	#581 (permalink)
Plankton Just Keep Swimming... Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: See signature... Posts: 7,765	I can't remember if I replied to this. It's been a while since it's popped up. I've never had to resort to violence because of my daughters actions. At 22, she's an extremely well adjusted young adult with a bright future and a healthy outlook on life. She's smart, kind, and has compassion for the world and everything in it. When she was a little girl doing the things little girls do, sometimes she'd test her boundaries, and I'd kneel down to her level, look her in her eyes and tell her very calmly why her actions were harmful, or what ever the case was. She'd usually just shrug, say "Ok Dad", and scamper off on her happy way. Before anything else, I taught her love, compassion, and understanding. The world needs more of it, and children will mirror your actions by a tenfold, so start there. __________________ See location...

10-28-2016, 12:07 PM	#583 (permalink)
Chula Vista Toasted Poster Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: SoCal by way of Boston Posts: 11,332	I think in total I spanked my kids on a clothed behind maybe 6 times combined. And it was not to inflict pain but to get across the seriousness of what they did at the time. __________________ “The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.”

10-28-2016, 01:22 PM	#584 (permalink)
grindy . Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: . Posts: 7,201	My parents spanked me a bit, at times with a belt, when I was little, because that's how things were done in the Soviet Union. Once we got to Germany and became civilised they stopped and are now ashamed of the spanking. I can't say I'm traumatized by all that, but I don't think it's really necessary. __________________ *A smell of petroleum prevails throughout.*

10-28-2016, 01:30 PM	#585 (permalink)
Frownland SOPHIE FOREVER Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: East of the Southern North American West Posts: 35,541	Parents pay me to beat the **** out of their kids because they can decide not to press charges and would go to jail if they did it themselves. I do it for the people. __________________ Studies show that when a given norm is changed in the face of the unchanging, the remaining contradictions will parallel the truth. d e a f b o x

10-28-2016, 01:44 PM	#586 (permalink)
Lucem Ferre Cuter Than Post Malone. Join Date: Sep 2015 Posts: 4,978	I feel like hitting the children can build a lot more resentment rather than obedience.

10-28-2016, 01:47 PM	#588 (permalink)
Lucem Ferre Cuter Than Post Malone. Join Date: Sep 2015 Posts: 4,978	That build more resentment. Maybe a temporary obedience.