Odyshape

I remember one time my mom pulled me off my bed by my hair once. I think I punched her though I can't really remember haha. I remember actually thinking I had it coming so I must have REALLY done something awful.

crukster

I agree with it only if you do it to teach them to hit you back. Not cool to use kids as a punching bag or some sadistic realisation of your failed dreams.

Farfisa

If my mom or dad beat me I would be fine with it. I don't like being the reason my mom never really go to enjoy her younger years. That doesn't mean I'd beat me kids though.

midnight rain

Eh I remember my parents using physical discipline on me as a kid. My dad hit me with the belt a couple times back in the day and I remember him picking me up by the neck and throwing me onto the ground but I'm pretty sure I turned out normal and I don't think I'm going to be some wife beater or anything like that Judge Adams. I guess I'm kind of neutral, it worked cause it scared me from getting into trouble as a kid, but I don't think I'll do it as a father.

ribbons

I am the parent of two and am absolutely 100% against the hitting of children. It’s just wrong and I have never laid a finger on my kids. There are much more humane and reasonable methods to discipline children, such as the use of time outs, taking away privileges, etc. These methods do take patience and consistency to enforce, but guess what? That’s your job as a parent. You are the adult, you are supposed to be setting the example. Hitting children is not a good example. If the child has serious behavioral problems, then make sure the child gets professional counseling – and make sure you get professional counseling as well. I’m sorry, but I think disciplining children – even difficult children – by hitting them is the lazy and easy way out.

Urban Hat€monger ?

The video does nothing to change my mind.
That's not discipline, that's abuse and there already laws to stop people acting that way towards children.

I fail to see the correlation between what's in the video and giving a child a tap on the back of the hand as a last resort if they are doing something that could potentially be a danger to themselves.

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Guybrush

I could be wrong, but I don't think the parents did anything illegal in that video. It's been in the news in the US, but (afaik) none of them are being persecuted by law over this.

I also don't think it's uncommon for parents to loose their cool when it comes to corporal punishment. After all, many seem to use it as a way to overpower the child and if what you're doing is not working, one way to try to change that is turn up the intensity of the discipline.

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Rubato

I think it did constitute as abuse but he got away with it since it happened over five years ago.

Guybrush

Ah, that could be it. I belive he's claimed he's done nothing illegal and he should know since he's a judge, but I guess he would say so either way.

Anyways, I definetly believe legality of corporal punishment enables abuse. Coming from a family that doesn't spank and a country where hitting children is illegal and as someone who's worked in a kinder garden, my tolerance for even light spanking is nil, though. I think what may seem trivial to an adult can still be traumatic to a two year old.

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Urban Hat€monger ?

But that's not necessarily something that's exclusive to corporal punishment.

Lets say you decide not to smack your children, instead perhaps you decide to make them sit down and have a time out. Let's say the child refuses to sit down.

Do you really think that forcing a child to sit down and restraining them until they stay there is any less traumatic than a small tap on the back of the hand?
If anything I would think it was more traumatic.

I don't believe for one second that just because you choose to give your child a small slap as a last resort you're any more or less prone to traumatising a child out of being angry.

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