Physical discipline against children .. okay or not? (quote, 1979)

Thrice · 04-17-2009, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by djchameleon

why do they have to be exclusive? why can't you talk to you kids and follow up with a spanking?
actually the other way around.

They will begin to understand why they are getting spanked. Physical discipline is NOT beating/abusing. There are two different levels.

I'm going to raise my kids like the same way as if I'm conditional/training an animal. I'm pretty sure Pavlov's technique can be applied to children also.

Ding Ding Ding.....(children drooling and waiting by your feet for food to be placed into their bowls.)

djchameleon · 04-17-2009, 06:41 PM

yep yep with open cans of ravioli or spaghettios

Yukon Cornelius · 04-17-2009, 06:51 PM

They dont get spanked anymore.. And they knew they did something wrong before they got spanked.. I'm not going to be some weird ass that talks to the kids for a while and then say ok now im gonna spank you they know why... Or they will find out.

The Monkey · 04-21-2009, 05:18 AM

Spanking has been illegal in Sweden since 1979, and there're no signs it has anything but improve the children's upbringing. Anyone who think violence is the proper way to raise their children are unfit to be parents.

Guybrush · 04-21-2009, 06:41 AM

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Originally Posted by The Monkey

Spanking has been illegal in Sweden since 1979, and there're no signs it has anything but improve the children's upbringing. Anyone who think violence is the proper way to raise their children are unfit to be parents.

Yup, as I posted some pages back, according to an ongoing evaluation of the ban in Sweden, it's been beneficial in every aspect where they hoped it would help.

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I'd like to pose a question, though you can think of it as rhetorical if you like. If smacks is your method of disciplining your children, what do you do if - after smacking - the child still doesn't do what you want it to?

midnight rain · 04-25-2009, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by tore

Yup, as I posted some pages back, according to an ongoing evaluation of the ban in Sweden, it's been beneficial in every aspect where they hoped it would help.

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I'd like to pose a question, though you can think of it as rhetorical if you like. If smacks is your method of disciplining your children, what do you do if - after smacking - the child still doesn't do what you want it to?

Smack harder.

I was brought up on physical discipline. As far as I'm concerned, if it doesn't reach the point of abuse it does no harm. I'm far from a violent person and it hasn't impacted me in any way. Of course, I used to walk around with a book in my pants and ended up getting twice the spankings I deserved. My dad's even used a belt.

Double X · 04-25-2009, 10:33 PM

Well I see this way...

kids who are willing to accept punishments - won't care if they get smacked or grounded.

kids who are naturally afraid of their parents - will be good anyways, no need to smack.

So where is the benefits to hitting? If was smacked as a kid it would not have stopped me from doing what I wanted at all.

Fruitonica · 04-25-2009, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by zzz

Smack harder.

I was brought up on physical discipline. As far as I'm concerned, if it doesn't reach the point of abuse it does no harm. I'm far from a violent person and it hasn't impacted me in any way. Of course, I used to walk around with a book in my pants and ended up getting twice the spankings I deserved. My dad's even used a belt.

The point of physical discipline isn't to beat your child into fearful submission, it's to illustrate a point. If you were 'brought up on physical discipline' it really can't have worked too well as a punishment.

Guybrush · 04-26-2009, 03:16 AM

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Originally Posted by zzz

Smack harder.

That proves my point. If you discipline your kids with smacks and they don't do what you want, you'll smack harder. The severity of corporal punishment has a tendency to escalate over time.

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 04-26-2009, 06:34 AM

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Originally Posted by zzz

Smack harder.

I was brought up on physical discipline. As far as I'm concerned, if it doesn't reach the point of abuse it does no harm. I'm far from a violent person and it hasn't impacted me in any way. Of course, I used to walk around with a book in my pants and ended up getting twice the spankings I deserved. My dad's even used a belt.

But I've heard of many people that were brought up without physical dicipline and they turned out fine. So if it's not necessary why do it? There are many ways to dicipline a child, and it's about applying rules and committing to them.

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The Monkey Music Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Sweden Posts: 803	Spanking has been illegal in Sweden since 1979, and there're no signs it has anything but improve the children's upbringing. Anyone who think violence is the proper way to raise their children are unfit to be parents.

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Double X sleepe Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: boston Posts: 1,140	Well I see this way... kids who are willing to accept punishments - won't care if they get smacked or grounded. kids who are naturally afraid of their parents - will be good anyways, no need to smack. So where is the benefits to hitting? If was smacked as a kid it would not have stopped me from doing what I wanted at all.