If You Want To Know Why The Spill Your Guts Thread Was Closed Read On

[Urban Hat€monger ?]

Originally Posted by Soulflower

The funny thing is you wouldn't want anyone to ignore your posts but you feel so entitled that you ignore other peoples post and dismiss them when you realize you are wrong.

I've made every attempt to address everybody who's posted in this thread.

Originally Posted by Soulflower

But I guess its okay to do that with me because I am "Soulflower" after all and nothing I say is never right or matters to this forum. You have a lot of nerve to sit here and act like you get criticized daily when people do nothing but kiss your ass here but as soon as someone criticizes you all of a sudden "You can't do nothing right." You are beyond arrogant

I've gone out of my way to try to accommodate you to the point where even people who like you are telling you that you're being unfair. Yet you keep on making this about me when I said in the very first post this wasn't about pointing fingers and just asking people to stop and pause before they post. That's everybody, including me.

I've tried to do what you wanted by saying where I thought I'd gone wrong and the reasons why I act the way I do, I also offered to keep an open dialogue with you in future if you had any problems, you didn't like it.
I'm not going to keep on with this till you do, just accept I've taken on board your criticisms and we still have differing opinions. Do you think you can do that?

Originally Posted by Soulflower

I hope other independent thinking posters like Oriphiel will continue to give you honest constructive criticism because that is honestly what you really need (although you don't want to hear it and you misinterpret it as attacking when I have been objective this entire time).

Why only him? Just because he agreed with you.
I gave you my reasons, I accept you didn't like them. Can we move on now?
I told you I'll apologise if you felt they were misleading but I won't apologise for my reasoning for posting what I did. That's 3 times I've said that now.

And why not everybody who's posted in here, I'm taking on board their comments too. I've never really seen eye to eye with GB and he's never been one to kiss anybodies ass least of all mine and I think he's talking a lot of sense.

Originally Posted by Soulflower

This clique and group thinking mentality of this board is not helping you with that because they all tell you what you want to hear

I only speak with 2 people from the forum away from it, one of them is in hospital, the other is a friend of yours.
If I do show any bias it's to people like Trollheart or Unknown Soldier or Frownland or Plankton or Lisnaholic or the many others who come here, cause no trouble, put a lot of work into the place and are patient with people and who have to be really irritated about something before they ask for action to be taken. Those are the people I show favouritism to and I will continue to.
There are no cliques with me inside them.
and maybe, just maybe the people who are agreeing with me. Maybe they're doing that because they actually do think I have a good point. Did that ever occur to you?

Originally Posted by Soulflower

Not once have I disrespected you but you now want to act immature and ignore my posts because you don't want your flaws to be put on display for all to see, fine.

Not once have I said or even implied you have disrespected me. There's a difference between not answering your posts and not answering your posts with what you think I should say.

Originally Posted by Soulflower

But dont sit and argue that you are interested in hearing criticism and other peoples perspectives when clearly you are only interested in people giving you appraisals and agreeing with you. When a little challenge comes your way you back out because you don't want to put in effort in accepting critique because you are to close minded to hear anything besides "Urban is the best or Urban does his job"

How many times now have I said now I take your criticisms of my first post on board?
Believe it or not you are just one person with one opinion as am I. I am just as likely to take your opinion seriously as I would someone who goes 'Yay Urban you're so right' because if I was wrong people would be quick to tell me on here and they have done in the past. If 20 people tell me one thing and 2 tell me the opposite obviously I have to go with the 20.
I don't know what you think this thread is about, but it's about cleaning up the lounge, not regurgitating all your frustrations out on me. And it seems to me the majority think something needs to be done, which is what I guessed based on what people were saying to me before I started all this.

Originally Posted by Soulflower

You need to be challenged in order to grow as a moderator. It doesn't matter how long you have been here and quite frankly doesn't justify your lack of leadership here. If anything, more should be expected of you since you have been here longer.

But anyway, you have clearly shown your true colors as a moderator and you have shown once again with your actions all I need to know.

And if the rest of the forum thinks I'm unfit to moderate I'll go. I've done it before when I felt I was burned out and not adding anything to the place and was gone almost 2 years. I don't need to be a moderator here. I'd much rather be writing a journal entry right now than doing all this back and forth but I'm not out of respect for you.