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[Key]

I do miss talking with OH about music and whatever else. For me, he came off as sort of like an uncle that was just trying to be nice to everyone, perhaps too much in some cases. Anything else I don't really have an opinion on, however I do hope whatever he is doing and wherever he is, he's doing well.

Same sentiment of doing well goes to Plank and Chula respectively.

[Marie Monday]

Originally Posted by SGR

He's talking about this post/exchange - but it's not like it was his last post or anything. I doubt it had anything to do with him not posting for a month:

https://www.musicbanter.com/2226126-post665.html

That wasn't even meant in a bad way and I told him so ffs

[ribbons]

Originally Posted by Marie Monday

That wasn't even meant in a bad way and I told him so ffs

Don't try to laugh it off now, you bully. We all know what a malevolent force you are around here.

I do hope that Plankton and Chula, and their families, are OK. I miss both of them and it definitely feels like there is something lacking here without them.

[SGR]

Originally Posted by Marie Monday

That wasn't even meant in a bad way and I told him so ffs

Sometimes, when people are looking for a reaction or an explanation and they don't get it, they feel slighted.

[Marie Monday]

Originally Posted by SGR

But like you mentioned. OH is here. He's still on - was last on two days ago, and presumably still reads the threads. It's not like Batty is whispering mean things about him to the other girls on the school bus after OH has been dropped off. OH is still welcome and able to join into any of our threads at any time and offer his input.

And compared to the things Batty said to him while he was an active participant, what he said here seemed pretty level-headed and restrained to me. He even corrected my initial description of events to make it more accurate in a way that made OH look slightly better.

also Hawk talked **** about MB on the other forum too. I think it's a bit childish from both sides (and I also think the pedophilia accusation is made a little too lightly for something so serious) but pretending it's one sided etc. is really short sighted

[ribbons]

The whole situation is very confusing with all the speculation and accusations flying around. It's really hard to judge what actually happened here. Was there a complaint made to the Mods by the young person about OH's behavior?

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by Trollheart

Also, I have to say it's somewhat disingenuous to be talking about someone who isn't here, making accusations when you know, Bats, you could easily talk to him over at SCD. You ran off from there when Tore told you you couldn't just start throwing accusations around, but you could have remained and tried to talk to OH and see if your opinion changed. As you didn't, as you basically ran like a girl when you realised you'd actually have to play by rules, I don't think it's fair you keep badmouthing him and making accusations here. You should know that your comments are most likely being carried back to SCD, not that you'll care, but there's nothing really to stop him coming over here and answering your accusations. At the moment though it's like you're beating up on a smaller kid who can't defend himself.

I left because Tore's pitch was that it would be our forum, Music Banter, without Advameg, but it turns out it's just y'all's forum where you run it like you want it and who wants that?

Hey bats,

You get one warning, otherwise it's the ban hammer.

I'll explain briefly. On MB one might get the feeling everything you say that can be misconstrued will. It can feel like an environment where certain people are out to get you at every opportunity. You're contributing to that on MB and neither me or Trollheart want that environment for SCD.

I'd like to keep you around, honestly, but I'm not gonna let you just start threads to attack other people.


Cheers,

Tore

**** that hall monitor ****. If you wanted to change the nature of the forum then why wasn't that part of the pitch?

[Frownland]

Suggest changing their rules, I hear the mods actually listen over there.

[Lisnaholic]

Originally Posted by Marie Monday

also Hawk talked **** about MB on the other forum too. I think it's a bit childish from both sides (and I also think the pedophilia accusation is made a little too lightly for something so serious) but pretending it's one sided etc. is really short sighted

That's well said, Marie. I think we should also remember that what we post or read on the forum is unlikely to be the whole story of a person's real-life character, which is another reason to be cautious.

Batlord's accusation (exhibit A):

Originally Posted by The Batlord

Unimpressed. I called OH a pedophile and he got so mad he got himself temp banned and left in a huff. He went to the Discord and when I started posting on Discord too he bailed on that too. Cause he's a pedophile who doesn't like being called a pedophile.

To his credit, Batlord then dialed it back (exhibit B):

Originally Posted by The Batlord

To be very specific he didn't say anything sexual but was just ... weird about interacting with a teenage girl. Like paternalistic and kind of controlling in a way I thought was a joke until it wasn't a joke. He also has "views" on attraction to underage people, that it's not abnormal to be attracted to a post-pubescant child, and while this is potentially not a wrong thing to say he just tends to be creepy as **** whenever he says it.

But going from B to A in the first place was an unjustified stretch imo; we all need to be careful about posting unproven accusations before we turn into these guys:-

[Trollheart]

I'll be dead before you'll see me wear a hat like that!