If you are emotionally attached with someone who is attached with someone else, I'd say be careful that you don't get exploited. The situation is likely very good for the person who has two lovers, but perhaps not for the two who have to share one person. The way you write about your feelings makes me wonder if you're trying to think the way you do to protect yourself from getting hurt because you're emotionally invested in a girl who already has a different boyfriend. That situation would steal away a lot of power from you because if you make demands in your relationship with her that she doesn't want to meet, she can say "no thanks" and get what she needs romantically from her "official" boyfriend instead while you have noone else and so much more to lose. So, hope I don't offend, but I suspect that instead of making demands to her, you try to convince yourself that your 3-man situation is okay or even something good when it really isn't.
So .. I'm just adding my concerns to those voiced by Dirty and others. Sorry if my post comes off as a bit douchey!
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