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djchameleon · 01-27-2011, 03:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Dirty

sk I appreicate the honestly in that post.

but dude, you gotta let her go. For real, you think you are gonna get married and your wife is gonna be totally cool with you snuggling with your ex girlfriend and pressing your boner against her ass while you fall asleep? You think your ex is gonna get married and still wanna come over and cuddle all night and give you blue balls? Sounds to me like you want her back, and she probably wants you back too or else she wouldnt be sleeping over with you.

You are talking like you are still in a relationship with her, dude. "And altough there have been some moments when I said "I can't do this anymore", we struggled on. There is no "we," you two aren't together. It's like you both still want each other, and you are gonna keep pushing the hugging/cuddling (dont understand that at all, to each their own my friend) limit until eventually it goes further. One night you'll kiss. Then it won't seem so wrong to grab her tits... and before you know it, you're putting it in her butt.

As for cuddling and spooning with female friends, I guess I just don't understand it. That's a pre-sex or post-sex type of thing in my eyes, I guess I am more just shocked that the girls' boyfriends allow that (unless they dont know or think you're gay).

Are you sure she wouldn't stop seeing you if her boyfriend asked her not to sleepover? Cause if she wouldn't stop seeing you, then her current relationship isn't very strong. By no means is that an outrageous demand for a boyfriend to ask his girlfriend to stop sleeping over at an ex's crib. So maybe that works in your favor cause in my eyes (though yes I am a far outsider) her relationship is doomed to fail at some point.

Cmon bro, she gets on top of you sometimes...gets naked in front of you... Dude seriously put your foot down and be like "We are either banging or I can't see you anymore." What happens if she decides eventually to marry this dude or get more serious and doesn't wanna do this with you anymore? You are gonna be devastated, start cutting some ties now so it all doesn't crush you like a ton of bricks.

Cause I get that you grew up together, built lives together. But you are searching for a girlfriend that doesn't mind you snuggling up against your ex's ass... Maybe things work differently there, but I doubt THAT differently. I think you're really just banking on getting back together with your ex. But what I am saying is make a move, playa. Make a move. Right now your ex is always gonna know that she can be with some other guy, and when she needs to can come over to your place for breakfast and blue balls servings. Don't give her that comfort even though it feels right. Make her start making choices instead of being the fall back option. Know what I'm sayin??

I don't think he will ever be able to put his foot down about this situation. He is too comfortable with it and a beta male. Everything he pretty much described is that they are all in open relationships and they are fine with it being that way.