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Originally Posted by duga
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Exactly. Accepting that change is inevitable is the key to getting through life. People get depressed because they can't get over the fact they can't control what happens in their lives. I found myself thinking far too much about the future when I was younger. When that future didn't pan out I would get really upset. The futures we plan never turn out that way...accepting that is the best thing I ever did.
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^ Amen. Me too.
And the odd thing about it is that doing that actually gives you more control, or at least agency, in things that happen to you. It's easier to recognize a real opportunity when you let go of notions about what that opportunity is supposed to look like.
In terms of relationships, it gets easier. Heartache becomes manageable if you let it and--and this is a point my life across the past 15 years or so has beaten me over the head with repeatedly--you never know who's going to come along or what'll happen, you just have to be open to it.