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Originally Posted by Lateralus
Haha well shucks  Yeah, I don't really know why it is. I'm not a tomboy, I do act very much like a girl, I just get along with guys better. We tend to share the same interests like music, video games, sport, the outdoors... whereas most girls I know aren't into these things. I know many girls enjoy these activities and are they like me in that they aren't heavily into gossiping or hair or makeup or shopping... I just don't know many!
And yeah, like NSW I only played with my brother growing up, I don't remember having barbie dolls or any girly toys... I remember kicking a football outside with my brother, or playing in the mud, or making things out of lego. |
Maybe things are different in your country.
But here guys have an increasing desire for girls who share their interests. We have a lot of attractive heterosexual girls who love sports, video games, rock music, gory horror movies and so on and are still very "girly" in nature. Being girly is no longer about barbie dolls and high heels and whatever. We don't have finely distinguished gender roles like we used to so a girl who is into that kinda stuff is only considered a "d
yke" or whatever by idiots. These days only really old guys complain about all the women of today being unladylike because they don't fit all the gender roles as they were from their generation.
Being feminine for me goes deeper than how people choose to define it, it is more about behavior and class than stuff having to do with personal interests and fashion. Empathy, tenderness, elegance and motherhood are more important to me as feminine qualities than press on nails and lip gloss. And just because a broad loves getting dirty every now and then and playing sports and video games and dressing in ts and jeans means she lacks these qualities. I just don't judge how feminine someone is by fashion. You have a lot more class Katie than sluts like Paris Hilton and Tara Reid ever will, they're not more "feminine" than you because of how they dress.
Anyway. It's not a requirement for me that my girlfriend shares my interests and tastes in stuff like music, film and gaming but it's certainly a plus.
Also, there's a lot of kids in my area and the boys and girls play together all the time with no segregation. All the girls here love riding their bikes and playing with the boys, but they're still girls, it's something all girls do now so it's no longer something exclusively for boys, this gives me great optimism that there will be less gender segregation in the future, because girls who prefer barbie dolls and tea parties to video games and outdoor activity are really becoming a rarity.
Gotta admit though, I actually owned a few barbie dolls when I was a kid and my friends poked fun of me for it, but whatever I didn't really do girly things with them I just used them with all my other action figures, I needed at least a few girl dolls to play girl roles (damsel in distress, love interest, whatever) because I liked making stories and acting them out with toys, like a lot of kids do. I mean lets be honest, a ninja turtle doesn't make a convincing lady, every boy needs a barbie to give their toy collection some gender equality.
