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Originally Posted by Lateralus
However, the biggest thing that I dislike about being a girl is the biological/ physical factor. For one, having babies.
Being on the contraceptive pill also sucks balls. etc.
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I definitely agree that one improvement society needs is for workplaces and childcare to be arranged so that having a baby is easier. Your job should stay secure, and you shouldn't get penalized for taking time off (when promotions are considered). It's a lot better now than it was, but not good enough. Ideally, for example, childcare centers would be close to workplaces so that women can visit to breastfeed a child during breaks but still go to work. That's awful that you lost your job simply because of being pregnant! Firing someone for having a baby sounds illegal, too.
I agree with you that bleeding every month is a pain, literally...and I'm lucky that it doesn't hurt much for me...but I still like the emotional changes. Plus, giving birth did hurt (during contractions, but then there were painfree pauses), though actually by the time I was pushing, I was used to the pain and it didn't bother me much. I just wanted to get my baby out because I was worried about him. And the soreness afterwards! It lasted weeks! No one had told me about that. Sitting down hurt. But for me childbirth wasn't the worst pain I've experienced in life...and it was a very memorable experience, something out of the ordinary, something new. Of course, I didn't have "back labor"...which is supposed to be excruciating!
The pill...I never considered using the pill because I didn't want to mess with my hormones and cause all the bad side effects you mention.
Condoms...if some man said he wouldn't be willing to wear a condom, I'd say the possible pleasure doesn't outweigh the risks. To even things up, I'd use foam, so that we're both doing *something* to protect ourselves from pregnancy and infections. I actually never met anyone who wasn't prepared to wear a condom...all the men had them...it was never even a question. I remember being quite charmed when a significant other not only had a condom, but also contraceptive foam for me to use. I thought that was very thoughtful and sexy. It is nice when someone makes you feel safe and protected and loved, all at the same time. Sigh!
My point is that being your own advocate and not letting society's norms crush you, regardless of your gender, is really important.
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Originally Posted by boo boo
I have never been one of those guys and so I can't deny feeling some degree of sexist resentment that so many women inexplicably find that kind of behavior attractive.
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I feel it is an extreme turnoff if a man sleeps around, because it means to me that sex is meaningless to him. It's difficult for me to imagine women (or men) wanting to have sex with someone who really doesn't care if it is you or someone else they're with.