what the hell? I sent Andrew Dost (multi-instrumentalist of fun. and many other indie bands) a friend request on Facebook ages and ages ago, and I saw he kept adding people that were not me. Eventually I figured I'd send him a message, not expecting a response:
"Dude, you know I love you man. It's hurting my feelings to see you add people as your friends while ignoring my friend request. Give it to me straight, Andy: am I Facebook friend material?"
I didn't just get a response, I got a full page!
"hey jamie - i'm sorry. i just get freaked out now to add people i don't know somewhat well in real life. i've had some strange experiences on here, and people harassing people i know. not that i think i'm a mega-star or anything, quite the contrary, i'm glad for any tiny shred of recognition, and it thrills me to no end that people want to be my friend on here, listen to my music, etc... but i guess since i didn't immediately recognize your name, and we had no mutual friends, i ignored it.
honestly it's something i think about a lot. i hate not having personal contact with everybody that friend requests me, but right now i have 111 unread messages in my inbox, and 61 friend requests. i'm sorry to have hurt your feelings, but sometimes i just click ignore if there are no mutual friends and i don't remember the name (i'm good with faces but have trouble with names). so basically - i didn't mean any harm. anybody i've friended lately has been a high school friend, someone i've played shows with, people who have done photography for me, etc... so while it may appear that i'm adding random names, i'm keeping within circles of friends.
all this being said - you now know quite a bit about me, which makes us friends. i hope you'll accept my request and that it won't seem like i'm just friending you so i don't seem like a ****head. i promise i'm actually not (usually!).
anyway. sorry if that's more information than you wanted, but i hope it at least explains the 'ignore' in a way that makes sense.
sincerely,
Andrew. "
New favorite celebrity? I think so.
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