Originally Posted by VEGANGELICA

Hi Right-Track,
Thanks for your response. I *do* know how much you do for the site...I just want to make sure you realize that...and I know I don't see all the work it takes because much of it is invisible, but I still appreciate it. I realize how without all the work you and the other mods have done and continuously do for the site, that it would be overrun with people intent on trolling. I also see your many helpful posts to people, sharing music suggestions, etc.

The only thing I wish you would do is apologize to me for implying I'm an idiot and a moron, because it hurt my feelings a little and because I feel it is important to follow the MB rule of not putting people down personally. Actually verbalizing an apology may seem like a tiny thing, but to me it is meaningful, because then I will tell you I accept your apology fully and all will go back to how it was before between us. Except, well, now you do know me a little better, and you know that if there is ever any conflict between us that I'm open to talking things out.

I do accept the Unfan's banning...I understand that the many intentionally hurtful things he did outweigh the positive, and that he had many opportunities you and other moderators gave him to change his ways. If I see someone labeled as something ("idiot," etc.) I want to stand up (as I did in his case) and point out the more complicated reality...no one is "all bad" or "all good." I would stand up on your behalf if someone calls you a mean name, too.

It is true that I think rudeness and bluntness aren't helpful on MB, though I understand you would be angry with people wasting your time, because life is limited and time is precious. That's also my argument for trying to be polite...because in my experience any meanness shown to someone just ripples out...that person becomes angrier...takes it out on someone else, etc., on and on. Since life is short I try not to make people sad or angry. I apologize if my letters frustrated you, because I didn't intend them to, David.

--Erica