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Originally Posted by crash_override
Then how are you going to stop the crying fit that ensues.
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You leave the kid be and let them learn for themselves what happens when they do something wrong. Hitting just isn't necessary!
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Originally Posted by crash_override
You mean stand up for themselves to kids that pick on them? Good, I don't want my kid going through that crap. I hope they stand up for themselves, so long as they aren't instigating the fights and it isn't terribly re-occuring.
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Kids standing up for themselves, fine. Kids bullying other kids via physical violence is not fine. And countless studies have shown that children who are disciplined physically are more likely to use violence at school, usually NOT for merely standing up for themselves. Their parents teach them that in order to obey they need to be hit. So children believe that if they want another child to do something or act in a certain way than they must be hit.
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Originally Posted by crash_override
Stranger, teacher, preacher, neighbor, creepy guy at the grocery store? NO.
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Out of curiosity, why would you think it's okay for you and your relatives to physically discipline your child but not a teacher who is a trained professional in disciplining and teaching children? If you think physical discipline is okay, wouldn't you condone teachers using it? Or would you like any other parents simply use physical harm as a means of controlling your children?
Teachers don't use physical discipline on children anymore because they are trained in the field and it is a known fact that physical discipline is ineffective and detrimental. Shouldn't that say something?
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Originally Posted by crash_override
But it my kid ever does something over and over again and hasn't responded to alternative punishment. Then physical means of correction will be instituted.
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I've worked with many, many children and I've never come across one child who needs to learn something through physical discipline. If your child hasn't responded to your form of discipline than obviously you haven't executed it properly or used the right technique.
I'd also just like to say that research has also shown that most parents who use physical discipline do not use it as a systematic disciplining technique. It is usually an act that takes place when they lose their temper or become frustrated that nothing is working.