Originally Posted by 333

On the open and shy issue, I believe both can be positive and negative depending on the situation. Setting and environment is crucial for me. Perhaps I'm just not "chic", but this past weekend, I attended an art show at a new gallery in town and found myself really out-of-place and put off by how the show was more so revolved around the people and what they were wearing, not the art. Needless to say, I babysat the free cheese and wine until I was able to admire a painting without someone kissing me on the cheek. After, I went to a house party and was immediately social and open. I agree with both veridical and vanilla - it's good to take a step back and just watch, but more fun if you just dive in and wing it.