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Originally Posted by Molecules
so you're saying that all the billions and billions of parents who's hands have made abrupt contact with their children's bottoms over thousands of years have no empathy towards them? I mean we're talking about discipline here, no good parent/person enjoys it but life is full of hard f*cking lessons. You seem to be implying that you'd only smack your kids for some sadistic reason, surely you can see the long term benefits in it with a particularly unruly child? That's what respect is ultimately I guess, a balance of fear and love, that makes it sound bad but I always looked up to my dad. With some kids it just takes more until they get the message, with me it was the 15 or so smacks I ever received, for toretorden is was that bat on the hand and a few stern words I'm sure.
These are just the basics or raising a child
edit: this was in response to Marijan's post!
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No, I didn't say they don't have empathy, they just don't have enough of it.
I really don't see anything desirable in inflicting pain on others, even if it is slight. Resorting to it just means that reason has failed, and that's always a sad thing. And as those supernanny shows prove, it is quite possible to discipline even the worst of children without resorting to violence.
And I definitely don't agree with the justification that life's hard. Sure it is, but that's precisely why the family should be made a safe haven.
I dunno, maybe I shouldn't comment because I definitely don't come from anything resembling a healthy family and will never have children...