Well I think there is a difference between love and being IN love. I mean love is all those strong emotions but doesn't have to be romantic. When I was younger all my female friends and I exchanged "I love you's" when saying good bye. It's when you tell someone that you're in love with them when it actually means something. That feeling that you are connected to that one person. If they are upset you are, you feeling indestructable when they are hapy. That's when you know... when they come first. Not because you are being a good companion but because you feel the need to because you wouldn't have it any other way. I think people fall in love with the "thought" of being in love and that makes for drama. Here's a test. Put the sexiest celebrity you can think of next to your friend... if you can HONESTLY turn that celeb down for your friend... then you might be half way there.