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Originally Posted by toretorden
Just one question first, are you with a new girl on top of everything else?
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Yeah, I'm with someone new now. I'm with her because I genuinely wanted to get together with her when we met, and I also thought about how it would help me not think about my ex because I have someone new. The thing is that my current gf is away in school and I haven't seen her in a month, giving me plenty of time to think about my ex gf.
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Originally Posted by RezZ
Ah dont worry my friend. We have all been in some airtight situations and time is all it takes. May hurt and be uncomfortable now but will get more bearable and then go away.
So don't worry, its normal.
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Thank god you're saying that, man. I like to think about time making it easier, though it's been half a year now, which probably doesn't mean much.
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Originally Posted by The Robot Hunter
I know it's easy to say (and cliche) but the grass is always greener on the other side. If you and the ex-girlfriend are two different people now than you were when you dated before - if there's been maturity and some drastic way that you both feel about each other then I would say go for it! Win her back and don't give up! But if there hasn't been that maturity on both sides then chances are if you two did get back together it would be the same result. It would feel great to begin with but probably would end about the same way and you two would just hurt each other again. If the new girl isn't distracting you in any way from the last girl then I would say it's safe to say that you will probably end up hurting her too if you can't give up the idea that you and the ex are going to get back together.
Whatever you decide just remember what it seems like you learned from the first experience, that it's not just about you and the actions you take effect the feelings and actions of other people.
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That's the reason why i I couldn't go for it and fight for it again. First because I basically disowned her, so imagine me saying "well... kinda wanna get back together now..." and second, i'd be doing the same thing I did to my ex gf to my current gf. If i get back together with my ex gf then my current gf has to go, and then I'd be back in square one. I like to think she has matured... i mean its been a year now. Thing is she's always been mature, just not old enough to do anything in this goddamn city.
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Originally Posted by Pornographie Nouveau
What age was your ex when you were with her?
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I was 19, she was 16.
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Originally Posted by Double X
Think of all the sh*t that happens everywhere else and how meaningless it is complain about it. I am not condemning your post, but there are so many more things you could complain about and it's easiest to just take a step back and say: who cares?
It's just a girl, there are so many opportunities and things will get better when you move out.
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I used to think about stoicism whenever i had problems. I love that you're giving me that advice, because that's how i used to like to think about it. Why mope about a girl that no longer hates me when I HAVE a girlfriend now AND there are people who don't have a roof over their heads, dead parents, and a million other things. It's because of my guilty conscience, and pride. I don't want her to always think i'm the ******* who dumped her and that im still that guy. but maybe it's best to let that go.
I'm glad you guys have taken the time to read the post. It gets easier when I hear people's inputs.