Well you do talk a lot about "not feeling safe." And as it happens I do believe that MTFs are vulnerable... to whatever it's called when others don't return to you or project back onto you your preferred self image. I should really brush up on my psychoanalysis cause they've got all the cool words for this stuff.
But it can be called the basic ambivalence of human condition. What makes life so interesting is that you don't know and can't control what others make of you. It's a back and forth between you and The Other where little is guaranteed.
"You will use my preferred pronouns and affirm my view of myself or I'll get you ****ing fired" is when you're afraid of life's inherent uncertainty and need to coerce others into compliance. A power thing. Power often comes in gentle guises: "you should show more consideration," "be kind," "if only you do this little thing there will be increase in the general happiness" etc
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