Thought I'd give you guys a little update on the situation with my friend. Some of this info wasn't shared last month so feel free to ask questions
TLDR: One of my best friends had plans to move to Maine from California to buy a farm with his girlfriend. She went over a few months early to set things up and he stayed behind to tie up loose ends and to pack their house. He ended up meeting a girl and it ended up driving him to cheat and break up with his gf. He decided to give it a go however in Maine, since they had done so much planning, and hope that maybe he'd get over the girl and be happy. It lasted a week and he told her everything. She killed herself a week later. He found her hanging from a beam in her bedroom. It took EMS over an hour to get there. It took us eight hours to get to Maine. .
I lived with these two in California for three months and was close to his gf. I went through a lot of complicated emotions. I wanted to support my friend. I was also angry at him for what he did. I was also grieving for her. I was close to her.
I ended up not really being able to talk to him about it for weeks and it put a strain on our relationship. Last night we got together for dinner and I was finally able to air out what I had been thinking and also was just able to talk to him about that day and my experiences. It was a good talk. We cried in a f*cking sports bar but so it goes...
He leaves for California tomorrow morning. I'm gunna see him one more time. I feel like this changed us a bit. I had been kind of coaching him on what to do leading up to her death and he didn't really listen to much of what I had to say. I think he feels that even though I had basically told him that it sucked that he didn't listen to me, I realized how difficult a situation like that was for him and that I can't blame him for not taking my advice. I also told him that he CAN'T treat people like that again. He's going to therapy.
His gf had depression issues way beforehand and he even let me in on what her suicide note said. She admitted what he did caused her a great deal of pain but that she had been on the edge of killing herself for years and that she just didn't see a point in trying anymore.
I'm still dealing with that part. Her deciding to kill herself. I miss her. I didn't get a chance to talk to her really after they broke up. I'll regret that forever I think.
Anyway, I am doing better. Time does heal a bit.
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