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Originally Posted by The Batlord
TBH if you can't develop an emotional connection with your current life that makes you reticent to change it then that might very well speak to your ability to create stable relationships in general.
Not that I'm casting stones, as my reticence is more fear based than connection based.
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Right; that thing in particular is a hallmark of Borderline personality disorder, (partly due to attachment issues in childhood + parents that were wildly inconsistent in terms of their emotional availability? Or whatever) I think. When it's connection based, anyway. Fear based reticence and/or just general cautionary avoidance is perfectly normal I'd imagine. Mine is about half and half I'd say.
(I was going to say it often feels like I have that "impostor syndrome" thing-- but that only traditionally applies to successful people, which I am not. But there's the constant fear that if I aimed a bit higher in life, it would work out okay at first, but then soon enough everyone would suddenly realize that I am an inherently Bad and incompetent goblin that merely managed to temporarily fool everyone/weasel my way in and then they'd chase me out of town with pitchforks and I'd be left with nothing.)