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Originally Posted by Lucem Ferre
It's more about the tone that's used. You're making ****ty assumptions and shifting the oppression to the other side. The more you focus on stupid little things like this and push against a certain people because of a perception of them being oppressors the worse you make things. You're not trying to promote equality or fairness you're trying to got some kind of vengeance on people who most likely aren't even guilty of what upsets you.
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No, you just need to get the hell out of Salt Lake City. When someone calls you "honey" they are not referring to you as an equal. If your grandmother does it she's treating you as her grandson, which is naturally not equal, but if a little ol' lady you never met does it she's being a presumptuous little grandmother and just assuming that it's cool. But nobody really worries about the elderly because there's just an assumption of deference.
When random redneck asshat presumes that kind of familiarity with a woman he has never met, he may not be consciously condescending to her, but he is most certainly not thinking of her as a true equal. She's not his daughter, not his wife, not his little sister, so why should he assume that it's okay to refer to a female stranger with a condescending nickname, especially when he probably wouldn't call me "son"? Probably because he's got a mind set which casually assumes a level of deference between men and women.