The role of government in people's lives is never going to be something all people agree upon unilaterally. Geography and circumstances differ too much between individuals to ever achieve consensus. Hence all this heated argument.
Maybe there will be a good excuse someday as mankind gets closer to the singularity (the elimination of most inhibiting factors right now in society thanks to stuff like CRISPR and the advancement of AI) to downsize the role government tends to play in our lives.
Until then though, whether you realize it or not, you are at the government's mercy for better or for worse.
