Well, I figured I'd pop in, too, since being a girl is something I have some experience with, and since having a happy relationship with a man is also something I know about.
Chelsea is right that women want to be pursued, but a girl worth her salt will not continue to make you chase her. Yes, girls want to be chased--but the point is to be caught. Show that you want her, but do not be afraid to say, "I've said my say. Now make your choice."
Chelsea is also totally correct that girls do not want weak men, but in my experience, girls do not actually want to admit this. They say that want to be in charge. They may even think so themselves. But they are not nearly as happy when they are.
A lot of the issues I have observed in male-female interactions stem from this fundamental difference: men are much better at giving respect to a woman than they are at giving love, and women are much better at giving love to a man than they are at giving respect.
Much of what a woman says about wanting to be "respected" really just means she wants to feel important to her lover. She wants to feel loved, treasured. Men can do the "you're a person, your opinions are as valid as mine, etc., etc.," but what the girls want is to hear that they are the great treasure of their lover's life.
Women can love men, want what's best for him, even be willing to sacrifice for him, but they often retain that little attitude that he'd be helpless without them, that he's lovable but not worthy of respect.
It can be a huge mess. Knowing about it can help. I love my Sir. I adore him. He is the great passion of my life.
But I also respect him. I show him that respect in our daily lives, and I have taught our spawn to do so, too. He is the King in his house.
My Sir has respect for my opinions, for my thoughts, but more than this, he treasures me. He loves me. Pure and simple.
Chelsea is right. Women are simple. They just seem complicated because they are trying to act like they want something different from what actually makes them happy.
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