And that suits you. My problem is that you make the assumptions that SxEs immerse themselves in that culture because they're too lazy to assert themselves - applying your particular situation to how they should live to an extent. Just because they do something someone else has done, doesn't mean they haven't thought about it and decided it to be the best things by themselves. To label them a "conformist" in an insulting fashion is as much shooting yourself as it is them, because on a basic level we have all conformed and will continue to do so. It is who we choose to conform with, and how we choose to do it, that decides who we are.
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Originally Posted by Fenixpunk
So my thinking is, not giving people a hard time isnt for acceptance, its a matter of respect. If someone disrespects me for something i do, bet your ass theyll get it right back.
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But if people are showing you respect, it's a sign that they are able to accept you as you are. Conformity, respect, obedience and the like are all closely intermingled. You do something to show that you respect someone and it gets you respect back. If you have an opinion, and you are around someone that you respect, you will not voice it in a way that you expect to be taken disrespectfully. You may be of an opinion completely adversed to theirs but you conform, if only a little, to show that while you disagree you respect them enough to not get in their face about it. If you got in their face about it, you wouldn't be accepted and you wouldn't be respected. Humans are highly sociable creatures - most often you will see that when people aren't within a group they get on well with they become depressed and lethargic. This will always be present, and we will always subconsciously twist our perceived or voiced views and wants based on the given situation so that we may better fit in - not for 100% acceptance necessarily, but so that we won't get our heads bashed on (unless you're drunk or high). This is conformity.