Thanks for the responses. I talked with my therapist today. I'm going to sit them both down and have a talk with them some time this week...without my brother. He's not mature enough to handle this. I'm going to explain to my dad that he's not going to live long enough to see my grow up and have a family of my own. I'm going to explain to my mom that she's only letting things continue like this if she's willing to just stand there and do nothing. I'm going to suggest AA for my dad and for my mom and me to get him to a new doctor, one that actually wants to help him instead of just collect a fee. We'll search until the right one is found. I'll tell my dad that if he truly loves me and my mom, that he'll stop drinking during the day and during the week. He drinks to self medicate because of his depression. He's on medication. It's stupid what he's doing but it isn't to the point where rehab is needed.
I have had some serious regret issues with my grandfather who died two years ago. I only saw him once the last four months of his life because I was afraid of seeing him in the hospital and was naive and thought he'd make a full recovery and live to 100. Life doesn't work like that. I don't want to bury my father in four years. I don't want avoid my family because they're miserable and bring me down only to have them die off on me. It's not happening. We're having a talk tomorrow night.
We'll see how this goes.
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