I have a very hard time with this. And I WISH my bandmates were into the music I'm into! I met a couple of people that I can go to concerts with, but even they don't like some of the more abstract music that I choose to listen to. I've gone to see Sigur Ros and Radiohead with these people, but they would never think about attending a Pere Ubu concert with me! My singer sent me a copy of Trout Mask Replica last year saying, "listen to this horrible thing! It gives me nightmares." I listened to it for fun, and a year later, I'm obsessed with anything Beefheart. I think my family (wife and three little kids) think I've lost my mind. But it is fun when my oldest (7 yr old) runs around saying, "Fast and Bulbous!"