djchameleon

As WD said, when someone mentions the friendzone. I immediately think of a situation where a guy was too slow/stupid/shy to come out and state his intentions at the beginning of the relationship and it turned into friendship where the girl that he likes ends up being just a friend to him and he wants more but he has a feeling she doesn't want more with him.

This leads to resentment when she is always hooking up with guys that are so ****ing awful for her or complaining about her douchebag bf to the guy and he just has to sit there and suffer through that friendship because he is too spineless to speak up. He won't say "I wanted more than a friendship with you but I can clearly see you don't and you'd rather date every other guy in the world instead of someone that is kind to you like himself."

The example I just used seems pretty anecdotal but it's actually the story of many guys that are in the friendzone.

One instance of me being in the friend zone was with a girl that I had feelings for but I wasn't sure if she felt the same way and we got along so well. In the beginning I didn't really see her as more than a friend but as our friendship went along I became attracted to her. You can't help who you become attracted to. It was pretty much too late by then to change the dynamics of our friendship by letting her know how I felt. I was really pissed at her when she got a new bf but decided to hide that fact from me. I had a feeling that she knew it would hurt my feelings but I was more hurt by her keeping secrets from me since we were so close and open about everything. I used that time to tell her how I felt about her as well which just made it more awkward but we some how made it through that awkward period. I still talk to her to this day but I'm completely over her and there are other issues why we wouldn't be good as a couple. We had a talk about it but sometimes I'm like gah, I don't want to hear about your bf and your issues with him but I don't want to be a shitty friend so I listen to her issues and let her vent to me.

I will end my post with this song.



Some people believe that the friend zone is just a guy that wants to fuck a friend of his that's pretty hot. Hit it and quit and don't care about being in a relationship with her. So the people that define the friendzone that way thinks it doesn't exist and that guys are just douchebags taking advantage of their friends or wanting to take advantage of their friends. It is also the same people that believe that men and women can't be platonic friends.

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Fame, fortune, power, titties. People say these are the most crucial things in life, but you can have a pocket full o' gold and it doesn't mean sh*t if you don't have someone to share that gold with. Seems simple. Yet it's an important lesson to learn. Even lone wolves run in packs sometimes.