This is going to be a big shock to most who have met me here already today: I'm gay.
How I ended up here is kinda a long-winded story, but you're not going to be trapped on a couch for nine years like Ted Moseby's children.
As far back as I can remember I was attracted to males. The male physique especially,. I can't put a precise date on this, but 'twas prolly around 9 or 10. I never really gave it much thought of consideration at the time because I just assumed I was straight and that was just the way it was. I lost my virginity pretty early, In a pretty..random chance encounter with a friend of mine..and this was a recurring thing for a little bit but again even though I clearly was attracted to guys I just never gave it any consideration because as a male only child that's what I was expected to be.
Most of high school (from what I remember) I continued under the assumption I was straight. I never dated girls irl but I online dated a girl who I'm still really close friends with.
Around 07 i kinda started talking to guys online, messing around with guys online and stuff, which opened up the possibility that I might be bi. All I remember from that period (spring 07-fall 09) was going back and forth between thinking I'm bi and I'm gay. I think that in my mind I thought coming out as bi would be more acceptable to my parents, because there might "still be some hope" or whatever.
This was my first "coming out experience" Like I mentioned in the orientation thread, I tested the waters by coming out first as bi and then as gay to people I knew online.
There wasn't a single light bulb moment..but I guess I just realized that...I don't have any desire to be sexually intimate with a woman.
My first coming out experience with a person irl was in a car with two of my friends from college..it was really awkward cause..we were talking about something relating to dating..like maybe it was us going on a triple date and I made some comment offhand, and one of them just straight up asked me..and the rest of the car ride home, which was only a Ew minutes, was just..silent..and afterward I had to go someplace for a class meeting, leaving the whole situation open and awkward..I talked to one of the guys on Skype during the meeting and afterward him and I went for a walk and I essentially came out to him..I eventually came out to the other friend in the car later, and they were both amazingly supportive about it.
The next couple months i came out to friends at home, the rest of my college friends, and immediate family.
Almost everybody was amazingly wonderful about it all. I feel blessed, as a gay man to have such wonderful and supportive friends and family and blah blah. Haha
Anyway that's all I have for now..I think
Okbye