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Originally Posted by Ass napkin ed
I am disturbed that someone could put so much effort into faking their sexuality just to feel excepted by me, especially since I have no problems w/ gay ppl so what was the ****ing point & as I said b4 he actually was already out, just not to me apparently.
Let me make this clear, I don't care if he's gay. I do care that he was pretending to be straight when hanging out w/ me, I care that what ever trust our friendship was based on was lie. So when I say that I can't be friends w/ him it's not the gay thing it's the lying & living a triple life thing, nothing more.
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It's a bit narcissistic to think he's keeping it to himself just so
you'll accept him. He just isn't ready, or maybe he doesn't trust you enough just yet. I'm sure he's not looking for your approval, he probably just isn't ready. How does someone "pretend" to be straight, exactly? Is he all like "YEEAHHHHH TITS!" or something? I don't really understand.
If you think your friendship with him is contingent on his sexuality or how he portrays himself, .... I'm just at a loss for words right now. Human sexuality/human psychology (in fact) is a pretty fluid concept. There are no definite answers to anything - there's not even singular "answers" for anything.
Your friend's just not ready yet. Maybe you're a little aggressive or intimidating in some way. Or maybe you should sit down and talk with him, and just tell him that you heard some stuff and you just want him to know that it's totally ok if he doesn't want to talk about it, and that you support and accept him no matter what.
Sometimes you just have to reach out. The longer you let it go, the more awkward it's going to get. But if you're not ready and he's not ready, maybe it's just good to chill out about it for a while. Or you could just let it go,
because he's your friend.