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Originally Posted by Trollheart
Thanks Jess. 1991, February 7. The big C got her, and she never smoked in her life. Dammit, life's very unfair sometimes... Still, she knew how much she was loved, and she was. Nobody --- nobody --- ever had a bad word to say about her. I wrote a sort of poem about her for I think it was the tenth anniversary or something; found it recently. If I can find some appropriate thread or section I may post it.
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Aww I'd really love to hear that. It really does happen to people who don't deserve it.
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Originally Posted by FETCHER.
Has anyone here's parents divorced?
My mum and dad are threatening divorce n it has come up a few times recently, I don't know if they're just saying this or if it'll actually happen. I can't take the stress of constantly crying over them if they're going to stay together. It devastates me each time it comes up and I wish they would just make their mind up.
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I'm sorry hun that must be absolutely dreadful to deal with. I hope for you and your brothers sake that they decide once and for all to either work at their relationship (maybe with counselling) or get a clean divorce. But nothings ever ideal in life.
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Originally Posted by Plankton
We've lived similar lives Fred.
One of the drawbacks of parents divorcing when you're younger is that the divorcing parents will usually use the children as pawns in the court precedings, as well as in the emotional tug of war. Although it may happen if the divorce happens when the children are adults as well, it's not as psychologically damaging since an adult child will have the mental maturity to grasp the complicated concepts of it all. Of course it's going to be painful, change always is, but having the cognitive skills to maintain a level attitude would certainly be beneficial. I never had that choice, and it took alot of soul searching, meditation, and counseling with friends to really let go of all that baggage. My brother chose sides, and in doing so created a mental wall that when viewed from my perspective, is very sad. A child NEEDS both parents, wether they're together or not. My daughters mother did terrible terrible things to Hanna and Me, but I've always told Hanna that no matter what she does to us, she loves her even though it may not seem like it.
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Aww that must be really hard, but it shows what a damn good father you are.
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Originally Posted by Hermione
My parents divorced when I was really young too ( I was 2 tho) so I don't really remember much about them even being married. My brother might but idk, I think my mom must have just married him bc she was knocked up or drunk the entire time.
Two Christmases was whack though, my dad's family is cheap as hell.
I hate both my parents though and they hate each other
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Why do you hate them? I'm sure it's completely justified but I'm just interested in what happened.