Originally Posted by Hermione

Well in my opinion, everyone is born one or the other, but it goes against traditional gender norms to be a Dominant female or submissive male, so it's difficult to figure out what your position is if it's not the norm. Dominant females are highly fetishised, but to be submissive is to be seen as being feminine and for a male, that's like the biggest insult. Also, it's heavily believed in the scene that dominant females are only pretending and that ALL women are really submissive, they just "need the right man."

Which is pretty hilarious although it is sad, they come at me.with that spiel and get their asses handed to them. I am naturally dominant, and any time I' m in the role of submissive in a relationship I inevitably **** it up.

but like, there is nothing so ****ing sexy as a man who is secure enough in his masculinity to submit