Well the thing is that back when it all happened, firstly there was no family meeting: it was just sort of taken as read that since I was living with her that I'd look after her. That annoys me, but there it is. I later tried to explain to them that we needed a contingency plan in case I copped it, or became too ill to look after her. One of my brothers' response was that she'd have to go into a nursing home. Hmm. No surprise there, but she heard it and was seriously pissed off. In the end I cancelled the meeting as nobody seemed to want to come, were making excuses and I felt all I would end up doing would be wasting an evening and getting angry as they sat there looking blankly at me. Not worth the aggro.
I don't feel like I should make the first move; they're the ones that have abandoned us and why should I be trying to make them feel better? I also know that if we did patch things up it would only be to smooth out their own feelings of guilt; there'd be no change in how things are. If they agreed to make an effort --- and followed through on it --- then maybe it would be worth it, but I know that wouldn't happen. It'd be more, let's get this over with so he's happy and we can go back to living our lives. An inconvenience, to be dealt with and then pushed aside.
I wouldn't mind (well, I would) but I'm not even asking them to help, just keep in contact, but apparently that's too much trouble. No, they're not getting off the hook that easily. Anyone wants to make overtures --- genuine overtures --- towards reconciliation it's going to have to be them.
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