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Originally Posted by duga
I definitely agree with anticipation. It's hard to imagine how drastic a change it really is once you are done with college, but if I had known things would get this complicated I would have tried to enjoy myself more during my university years.
I won't give you advice one way or the other about your girlfriend, but I came to college under similar circumstances. If you are going to stay together, give each other space. Go out and meet your own friends. This is ESSENTIAL. I was in school for a year before she started, so I had a ****ing BLAST my freshman year. Then she came, it was cool for a while, but she ALWAYS wanted to be around me. She didn't want to make her own friends and I ended up feeling a bit resentful. I didn't break up with her for a while because I also felt like she came to my school for me and I felt obligated to be with her. It wasn't much fun.
As for everything else...you will feel out your own college experience. Just be open and have fun. I smoked bud every day and still got a degree in genetics, so a school/life balance is definitely possible. I went to Purdue and I partied at IU a few times, so I feel like you will probably have a similar experience to me.
I'm still at Purdue for graduate school and it's orientation week for all the freshman. It's always entertaining to see all of them running around lost and intimidated, huddling together in their little orientation groups. Oh, if they only knew what was in store...
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Coincidentally, my best friend (the one that's going to another college away from me), is going to Purdue. He's one of those crazy applied dudes that's going into Engineering and he's part of the Honors Engineering program. You probably won't be meeting him at any parties >_> He doesn't even know I smoke pot. He'd probably disown me.
Anyway, my only primary worry at this point is if I'll be able to balance school and fun. I mean, I have a nice scholarship that I'd really like to keep and I'd even more like to get a scholarship when I move up to grad school (my dad did this...he's got a Ph.D and graduated Suma *** Laude...expectations for me are high). At the same time though, I love to have fun. Drinking is pretty meh for me overall, I mean it's fun and I'll do it but I never plan on being a heavy drinker. But I just love to get stoned...and that plus school work usually doesn't work. I just hope I can balance these things.
My girlfriend is an interesting subject. I've had my fair amount of relationships before her, but she's the only girl I've ever had sex with. I fully believe (and I promise I'm not just some naive kid) that I can be with her for good and I would really like to. There's just no one quite like her (and I went to a huge ass high school...ever heard of Carroll High School in Fort Wayne, duga?) I feel like we can make it work here though, so I'm going to try and see how it goes. I don't think, at least, that I'll have the problem you experienced, duga. There's never been problems between us when I want to go out with my friends or something. We'll see though, I guess!