What Urban said has a valid point, throwing tons of music vids at someone who has a hard time understanding music and how it makes them feel is not going to change their way of thinking so maybe throw something like this at you:
Does the film resonate more with you with the music? Does the marriage of audio and visual mediums bother you or do you welcome it?
You state you are a film fan and I am not disputing that but many modern films (at least 1970 onwards) use contemporary music to accentuate the images presented and are often action/dialogue free so if you can still enjoy a film that employs this method then music does work for you even if it is subconsciously. Please bear in mind that I mean CONTEMPORARY music (that is music pre recorded and not scored for a movie) and therefore if you watch a movie and it excites your senses even if it's just on a visual level you are taking in the audio element whether conscious or not and you are a music fan but just don't know it yet
