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Originally Posted by Freebase Dali
To be fair, you can't really blame yourself. It's hard enough to control one's own state of affairs much less those of others. I wouldn't think of it in terms of controlling, though, but in terms of doing what you can to ensure the success of the group.
If you devote yourself to that, people will naturally see you as a leader, even when you're not trying to be, because they know the best chance of success is following the guy who seems to care about the outcome of the project, even if he doesn't have all the ideas to put towards it.
If you're still in the project, I wouldn't worry about feeling pride in it as it is. I'd worry about getting through the tough stuff now, and being proud of the result. It's going to be frustrating, no matter what. Pain now, glory later.  |
I guess it is hard to control the state of others but I know I have the ability to do so if I try. That is what I meant by the frustration business. I am sour because I wasn't exercising what to me is considered and adequate amount of effort. I have noticed taking some responsibility for the way things turn out and even for the way people treat you (being given bad work and having to listen to bitching and moaning about other group members for hours on end) 9 times out of 10 is worth doing even if that means accommodating the brain dead haha