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Originally Posted by Odyshape
Thanks that is some good advice. I tried to be the guy giving direction and got the impression that I was doing well but I did get some what distracted along the way and kind of gave up some what. As much as it sucks I guess the dysfunction of the group is partly my fault. While I may not be the worst I did have opportunities to make things easier for myself. Hmm that is probably the real reason as to why I am upset about this situation. Its not so much the failure of others but my failure to make the best of a bad situation. If I knew I was doing the best I could I would probably approach this circumstance with pride rather than frustration.
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To be fair, you can't really blame yourself. It's hard enough to control one's own state of affairs much less those of others. I wouldn't think of it in terms of controlling, though, but in terms of doing what you can to ensure the success of the group.
If you devote yourself to that, people will naturally see you as a leader, even when you're not trying to be, because they know the best chance of success is following the guy who seems to care about the outcome of the project, even if he doesn't have all the ideas to put towards it.
If you're still in the project, I wouldn't worry about feeling pride in it as it is. I'd worry about getting through the tough stuff now, and being proud of the result. It's going to be frustrating, no matter what. Pain now, glory later.
