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Originally Posted by LoathsomePete
So feel free to tell me to fuck off for bitching about this, but it's been bugging me all day.
So last night I ended an almost 3-year dry spell, well except for the fact that I couldn't finish. Two and a half hours of going at it she had to tell me to stop because she was beginning to get sore and had to be at the lab early. First time getting laid in almost 3-years and I can't even finish. This use to happen when I was on Cymbalta, but I've been off the stuff for years so I have no idea what the problem is. It wasn't that I found her unattractive and she knew what she was doing so I honestly have no idea what the problem is. It was kind of reassuring that I haven't become a 2-pump chump in the few years of my abstinence, but in some ways this is worse. I had to reassure the girl that it wasn't her, that this is pretty normal with me (which is true, but only when I was on medication). Blah.
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SSRIs have sexual side effects that can last for years, even after treatment is resolved. They hijack neurotransmitters in the brain and override human sexual satiety cues so that the normal process of tension & release is ablated. If you were taking Cymbalta for a while it's natural for it to take some time to get back into the regular swing of things. Keep having sex and try doing it sober -- it's easy to be proud of longevity, but sexual satiety is more important to maintaining personal health.
The easiest way to describe your situation is that if you're unwilling to have sex with your girl without wearing a condom, it probably isn't the rubber that's keeping you out of the fight. Trust and mutual respect are as important elements to the psychosomatic process of getting off as physical attraction is...medication tends to desensitize that effect.
One-night stands are not a good way to practice this at all.
As soon as I realized that SSRIs messed with my sexual response to physical stimulation, I was a non-believer. Interrupting this process has such severe repercussions on a person's emotional well-being it's no wonder we're all depressed to begin with.
I will say, exercise helps. Strenuous aerobic exercise is a great tool to expediting the removal of withdrawal symptoms since it speeds metabolic processes in the body. Also, make sure your diet includes enough cholesterol for the production of testosterone. Not enough and your body will compensate by arresting libido.