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Originally Posted by captaincaptain
You're right. There are underlying circumstances why someone gets that way. Perhaps, I've been a little dismissive of those circumstances. Though my point was never to put any individual down. Like other addictions there has to be some kind of motivation of their part to begin the process of recovery.
I'm new to these kind of discussions on in this forum and it was never my intention to make anyone feel hurt because of their personal situation. Personally, I had four grandparents that lived unhealthy lifestyles and none of them lived past 65 and it's my goal to live beyond that, so I try to live as healthy a lifestyle as possible. I know for some it's harder and I probably didn't see it that way at first.
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Thats just how society works now a days man. Your not allowed to say what you really think only what people want to hear. Even if what they want to hear is only inflating the issue, and potentially doing more harm than good. Personaly in life I tend to value, and trust someones brutal honesty(even if it is offensive) rather than someone who says something just to pacify me, or safe guard my feelins, but thats not the case for everyone, and thats their right.
I dont have problems with alcohol or cigarette jokes, and welcome them with open arms. In fact ive even been debating putting myself in a pressured to drink situation just to build up my resistance, and see how id respond. Its not going to go away, and its not like im going to start crying cause people are talking about alcohol or consuming it in my presence, and smoking ciggs as well. Then I again I guess I could break down, and get offended fall off the wagon buy a pack of smokes and throw caution to the wind. Then when life crumbles even more just blame it on how offended I was, and ask the government to start sponsoring me, and bail me out of the self created pity party I had created for myself. All because I wasnt strong enough on the exterior to handle the enevitable problems, and dilemmas life throws at you. Have someone sugar coat the approach they take(so I can not really take them serious) while they explain the problem at hand, and further the exsistance of a self destructive path.
Or I can continue to man up, and recognize the rewards of what will pay off in the long term. Instead of letting my emotions get bent out of shape because of comments someone made or lack there of because they were afraid of hurting my feelings. Either or if thats all it takes to crack my shell than I would be in for a long hard road of infinate failure of acheiving any life that had any kind of substance to it. So ill choose the latter, and remain sober, and aware that not everything in life is a bed of roses, and if I cant acheive something on my own or maybe with a lil help from my family. Then I damn sure aint going to ask the government for it..ill just go without. Accountability in modern society has been lost somewhere through the years, but all this is just my opinion and stance on things.