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Originally Posted by GeddyBass2112
Dunno if there's a thread for this thing, but I did look. Here goes...
Anyway, I'm 22, female and my major problem is that I find it hard to relate to anyone my own age, or make friends.
I'm honestly trying not to sound arrogant here, but the girls I've come across my own age are vacuous idiots who aren't interested in anything of remote depth. I also don't hold most of the same interests as most (if not all) girls my age either, meaning I can't relate to them even on a shared-interests basis. I don't go to clubs, I'm not interested in make-up or clothes that much, I'm not into celebrities or TV or any 'popular' films one bit.
The whole thing though has left me pretty much friendless all my life and now is making me more and more depressed as time goes on. What has not helped is that I only recently returned here after spending some 5 years away in another part of the country, and this is a small place, where everyone seems to know everyone else. Most of the people I once knew have moved on and have kids, their own lives.
I really don't know what to do. I've tried going to different activities and classes and trying to talk to people, but I'm hitting these problems time and time again. It's hitting my mood big-time and it's not helping my depression one bit.
I'd appreciate some advice 'cause at the moment I really have no idea what to do.
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I can somewhat relate. For a long time I was very tomboyish but thanks to my excellent social skills I can befriend anyone with any type of interests. Obviously for most people it's not that easy. You want someone you can connect with on a deeper level and I'm looking for that myself right now. Most of my friends are club crazy, boy crazy and listen to crap music. I've really grown past that - hate clubs, hate men (jokes but I am not obsessed with getting a guy or even interested at all right now), and listen to music beyond the so called normal crap.
I just moved cities and the place I'm staying is a tiny piece of ass town which is over an hour away from everything decent. But it's only temporary and I have the luxury of making new friends in the manner I want to, not the ones I had from school.
My advice for you is fine someone musically compatible with you. Whether it be a drum lesson, a band at the local pub or someone who's interested in collecting music. I'm saying this on the basis that you're a music elitist like us.