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Burning Down · 11-20-2013, 06:35 PM

I really want a child. Not more than two though, and I have had this conversation with my boyfriend and he agrees with me. Hopefully before I'm 35, as after 35 the chances for genetic mutations are greater, and also the chances of the child having autism. Nothing wrong with autistic children (my brother is) but its a lot of work and money to care for them. I don't think I could deal with that (but then again, neither did my parents and they've done okay). I have grown up surrounded by children as my mom runs a daycare out of the house. I think I just have that maternal instinct engrained inside me. Plus I am going to be a teacher and want to devote my life to children's education, more specifically music education (as it's quite important in a child's development, but that is a whole other topic right there).

My child will be wanted and loved by us. I will have a good paying job and my child will have a good quality life and will be provided with a good education. I am not having a child to appease society's expectations - that is the wrong reason to have a child. I will not be giving up my life by having a child - that idea is constantly pushed upon me by friends and family who have chosen to be child free (and I don't judge their choice, since it's a commendable choice, so it's extremely rude of them to say things like that to me).

If I can't have a child for whatever reason, I'm not going to let that bother me. Or I will at least try not to let it get to me. I'm hesitant in going the adoption route since its quite costly here and since I have a couple of adopted relatives who have caused some big drama within our once tight knit family, so I don't want that experience. I understand why people choose adoption though.

I have noticed that there is a problem with bratty kids lately, and honestly I believe it's due to the fear that parents have of saying NO to their child. Most of them are either my age OR older parents in their forties who waited forever to have a child and are afraid to discipline their precious baby. Too many kids are so spoiled now due to lax parenting. Those kids are the ones you see and hear out in public, with bad manners or screaming because they didn't get the latest toy. If you can't say no to your kid now, when they are teenagers they are going to think they can get away with whatever they want!

Wow, ginormous post. TL;DR: I want kids.

11-20-2013, 06:35 PM	#33 (permalink)
Burning Down The Music Guru. Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Beyond the Wall Posts: 4,858	I really want a child. Not more than two though, and I have had this conversation with my boyfriend and he agrees with me. Hopefully before I'm 35, as after 35 the chances for genetic mutations are greater, and also the chances of the child having autism. Nothing wrong with autistic children (my brother is) but its a lot of work and money to care for them. I don't think I could deal with that (but then again, neither did my parents and they've done okay). I have grown up surrounded by children as my mom runs a daycare out of the house. I think I just have that maternal instinct engrained inside me. Plus I am going to be a teacher and want to devote my life to children's education, more specifically music education (as it's quite important in a child's development, but that is a whole other topic right there). My child will be wanted and loved by us. I will have a good paying job and my child will have a good quality life and will be provided with a good education. I am not having a child to appease society's expectations - that is the wrong reason to have a child. I will not be giving up my life by having a child - that idea is constantly pushed upon me by friends and family who have chosen to be child free (and I don't judge their choice, since it's a commendable choice, so it's extremely rude of them to say things like that to me). If I can't have a child for whatever reason, I'm not going to let that bother me. Or I will at least try not to let it get to me. I'm hesitant in going the adoption route since its quite costly here and since I have a couple of adopted relatives who have caused some big drama within our once tight knit family, so I don't want that experience. I understand why people choose adoption though. I have noticed that there is a problem with bratty kids lately, and honestly I believe it's due to the fear that parents have of saying NO to their child. Most of them are either my age OR older parents in their forties who waited forever to have a child and are afraid to discipline their precious baby. Too many kids are so spoiled now due to lax parenting. Those kids are the ones you see and hear out in public, with bad manners or screaming because they didn't get the latest toy. If you can't say no to your kid now, when they are teenagers they are going to think they can get away with whatever they want! Wow, ginormous post. TL;DR: I want kids.